Why television bewitches children so much? The virtual image takes a child away from reality for a while. In cinema children realize they experience something external towards themselves, limited in time and space, as going to the cinema is always a ritual, supposing certain séance, dark hall, the presence of other spectators. In front of TV, a child faces a flow of uncoordinated images, staying in the usual atmosphere. It is more difficult for him to move away from happening on the screen – and the bewitching effect is increased.
Which effect TV-programs have on children?
Until 3-4 years children are attracted only by motions on the screen. Differing real and imaginary is difficult for them until 7 years; since 4 till 7 years identification prevails: children compare themselves with their favorite heroes and want to resemble them. After 7 years they already can compare TV images and plots to reality. They already have ideas of time and space, and they are learning analyzing, reasoning and maintaining their point of views. These abilities are formed by 10-11 years when the substance of things they see becomes the most important. Approximately since this age children can choose programs by themselves and also make breaks between programs. In an early teen age (12-13 years) they are already a little bit tired of TV, and they switch to video games. The substance of images becomes very important, a new stage of identification takes place. Comparing themselves with video and TV heroes, children prefer characters that support their ego: boys – strong and masculine, girls – beautiful and seducing. During this period parents should again pay special attention to TV-program choice and discussion.
Since which age children can watch TV without adults?
Approximately since 7 years, they can do it by themselves, but you also can allow your 4-year old kid watching a disk with cartoons alone. If he woke up very early on the weekend, and parents still need to sleep for a while, there is nothing terrible in his cartoon or children program watching, however, you still should not use TV instead of a nurse all the time. Parents should direct a child’s choice, helping his growing up, learning himself and surrounding world, and TV is no exception.
Which programs to choose?
Children should watch only high-quality TV-programs, made professionally and suitable for their age. However, at the same time, it is much better for a child to watch a good movie with his parents, than one of endless hackneyed cartoons. Parents should understand there are programs that are useful for a child development, there are also really harmful ones, and there are neutral ones – useless, but at the same time, safe. As for the latest, do not to break a lance over them: they are not worthy of spoiling your relationship with a child.
Quota for watching
Since the very beginning parents should arrange how much time a child will watch TV during a day, week. Concentrate your attention not on the time of watching, but on substance of TV-programs: watch a program together, choose disks. This will help a child feeling himself a participant of a choice, not a passive spectator. Revise arrangements once in 2-3 weeks. Parental word should be principal in a program discussion and time of watching. When a child grows up and is ready to choose programs himself, it still will be very important to discuss together programs you should watch.
How to make him observing established rules?
It is impossible to stand behind a child’s back all the time, especially when parents work. A wise way out – is teaching children to certain rules as much earlier, while a child is small, then you won’t have to use “sanctions” later. Always explain him your position and reasons, according which you limit time of watching.
TV in a nursery: is it dangerous?
Nursery is not a place for TV. Switched on receiver turns into a usual background, and a child has less chances to find more useful and developing actions for himself. After he begins to enjoy such available pleasure, he may refuse to make efforts in a game, reading, thinking – what is necessary for development of his own way of thinking.
He likes stupid shows. What to do?
Parents have a right to ban some programs. However, things adults consider absolutely stupid, are not necessarily stupid for a child. Before you ban a program, watch it together: this will give a child possibility to explain what exactly he likes in it, and you will tell about things you dislike. Banning just though stating you do not like a program is not efficient. If you argue your position, then a child will also learn explaining his one; this way you will help him forming his own opinion and ability to uphold it.
What to do with commercials?
Children like watching commercials: they like the rhythm, music, motion. Since 3-4 years they can easily recognize melodies of clips and logotypes of goods. And only since 7-8 years they can understand special tasks and mechanisms of commercials. It is important for parents to explain a child what is advertisement. 7-year old and even 5-year old ones already can understand a thing cannot become better due to its appearance on TV, however it costs more, as people spent big money on advertising and buyers will now pay for it. Thus, advertisement will turn to be a good cause to teach a child first knowledge in the sphere of economics in a simple and comprehensible form.
What to do with dramatic informational plots?
News of the day – is an adult program, both in form and substance. Ideally, children under 7-8 years should not watch informational programs, especially when terrible events take place. However, is a child saw a report of some tragic events and suffers, try to create a feeling of safety in him: sit close to him, hug him. While speaking about things he saw, explain what happened on the screen, accentuate efforts, people make to save victims.
Who and how much watches
“Boys and girls of 4-10 years watch TV on average 2,5 hours during a day; 11-14 years – 3 hours a day. Above 15 years – 4 hours a day (this is approximately one hour more, than their coevals did in 1999). Since this age girls spend on average 0,5 hour more for TV watching, than boys”. – TNS Gallup Media informs.
How to treat love scenes, erotic and sex?
Erotic movies require emotional and sexual maturity: ideally, children under 16 should not watch them. If a child starts asking questions or is confused due to some love scene, watching some movie, meant for all categories of spectators, this is a good cause to discuss sexuality with him.
Does TV slow down their cultural development?
Probably, the main TV’s guilt is that it takes children time from games that have huge developing meaning. Children need to express their imaginary ideas in action, and TV offers them treating other characters’ actions passively.
So, it harms? Things a child sees on the screen have no great meaning, his actions after watching them are much more important.
Parental task is to help a child using received information for his own benefit. And, probably, they should explain that TV, like any other inventions of our culture, has its reverse side…